It takes a few key things in a relationship to make it long and strong. Two of those things are respect and boundaries. You both must have respect for each other. That respect combined with your love should help when things are getting out of hand and going too far. This can make it so that when you are at a disagreement the respect you have for one another will keep you from going to a point of no return. I have truly learned the value of that as I have gotten older. Let’s talk about how the significance of respect and boundaries.
RESPECT. As I have gotten older and formed relationships with people, I have learned that my failed relationships ended because there was a lack of respect. Rather it be a friend or a boyfriend there was no respect. No respect equals no boundaries. Most of those bad relationships had huge red flags. Everything from telling personal business to trying to talk to me crazy in front of people. All clear signs of disrespect. When it happens once, and you manage you move pass it is one thing. However, if they continue to try it, you have a problem. That’s when it’s time to delete numbers and erase pictures. If you don’t have respect for me then there is no room for you in my life. A person who doesn’t respect you will continue to do the same thing and solve it with “sorry”.
BOUNDARIES. If you respect a person, then you have boundaries between you. There is a line and you know exactly where it is. Above all, you know that to cross that line means that you have no respect and makes it clear to the other person. You must have a limit. A place that no matter how bad we are disagreeing you just don’t go. Rather it be mentioning a certain situation or person, you must have boundaries. Someone who has respect for you will understand that your limits need to be respected. No one that loves and respect you should be crossing the line and using your limits against you.
The significance of respect and boundaries is crucial to any relationship . Rather it be with your grandma or your wife you should respect your loved ones, as they should you. You should respect their boundaries and they should respect yours. Know your loved one, respect them, and grow your relationship into something beautiful. Do you have respect in your relationship? How important is this to you? What’s your thought process?
The older I get, the more importance I give to personal space and boundaries. The power of “no” as a whole sentence. With no need to explain.
Ive lost so many people just from setting boundaries and asking for respect – but it wasnt much of a loss in the end
Ash | https://thisdreamsalive.com
I know what you mean. They didn’t deserve you anyway.
This was such an interesting read and such an important topic. We really need to be talking about this way more than we do. It’s also important that we have self-respect and personal boundaries. I think having these for our others and for ourselves come hand in hand.
I completely agree! Thanks for your comment.
That sounds quite lovely. It is quite true that with little respect, in all kinds of relationships, there develops an imbalance. And when there is an imbalance, the building has to fall, sooner or later. Sometimes it happens that I find myself being mean to someone else, but I always make sure I apologize in a day or two, because if I let their dislike for me fester, when it was I who disrespected them, then they would very soon loose all respect for me too.
Saying sorry does not lessen your value. Everybody should learn to own up and say sorry when they’re due.
*claps* YES! Thanks for sharing that great comment!